I realized why directors are such horrible people – in a way – because you want things to be right, and people will just not listen to you, and there is no time to be nice to people, no time to be delicate.
It doesn’t cost a lot to be nice. Some self sacrifice, a handful of minutes per day or a quick and easy phone call. Yet many developers and executives aren’t nice, at all. As George Lucas says, it’s very hard to be nice in the midst of a creative process. But high touch and empathy can do wonders for personal relationships and business endeavors. Becoming a nice person could very well be the most important move of your career.
It is so much easier to be nice, to be respectful, to put yourself in your customers’ shoes and try to understand how you might help them before they ask for help, than it is to try to mend a broken customer relationship.
Treat everyone you come into contact with as best as you can. This is probably the most telling fact of your personal brand. Being humble and being nice create habits that grow on you and make you a different person. That’s right, don’t just be nice for other people rather, be nice for yourself. The habit of taking care of others grows on you and make you a much better person.
So, in other to become a better father, a better mother or a better human being, just start exercising your physiological muscles by being nice one day at a time.
Why Should I Be Nice? – A Brit Lab Video
Hannah Fry uses maths to illustrate why we should actually be nice to each other.
Footnote 1 – http://rspb.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/royprsb/274/1628/2965.full.pdf
Footnote 2 – http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0169534707002650
Footnote 3a – http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0022519313001604
Footnote 3b – http://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0030689
Footnote 3c – http://www.pnas.org/content/110/7/2581.abstract
Footnote 4 – http://rspb.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/264/1388/1619.short